Afraid of Something?

Afraid of something? That’s what you should do then
— Brit + Co

I saw an Instagram post the other day from Brit + Co with that quote. It got me thinking first about how many things I haven't done, said, or pursued because of fear. But then I started thinking about all the things I've done despite my fears, the things I acknowledged made me afraid but chose to do anyway as a challenge to myself. I can specifically remember a time I wanted to ask a new friend to hang out and I kept making excuses: what if they don't have fun, they're too cool and I'm too boring, what if they just hang out with me because they feel guilty saying no....etc. I know it sounds ridiculous but you know you've done it before. But I thought about it and decided, what the heck if they think that they think it but at least I tried. I don't even remember what happened after that to be honest but I do remember that making that simple decision to send that text message was so freeing and exciting! Stepping out of my comfort zone felt good! 

I made a little list of some personal accomplishments because I felt it was important to acknowledge them and give myself some credit:

  • starting this blog
  • every time I sing in front of people
  • applying for that job that seems a little out of reach
  • telling the truth about yourself to a friend
  • speaking up about how you've been hurt by someone

That's a small list of what seems like small things but they might be BIG steps for someone. They were definitely big steps for me. So much of what holds me back is fear of other people, their opinions, their reactions, or their words. But I have to learn to let go of that because I'm not ever going to make everyone happy and I will drive myself crazy trying. I don't know what holds you back but I want you to think about yourself. What are you afraid of and how could you actively try to fight that fear and take baby steps or BIG steps to get past it. BUT also don't forget to think about the steps you've already taken, even in the little stuff, and give yourself a pat on the back for being brave. It can be really freeing to step out of your comfort zone. 

Torey Noelle